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Why Inner-Love Comes Before Any Other Love

In the quest for love, we mostly look outward, seeking affirmation, validation, and affection from others.

If I can just find the right person then I can feel the way I want!

Yet, the most profound love we can experience originates from within ourselves.

Inner-love is the cornerstone of our emotional well-being and the key to fostering healthy, fulfilling relationships.

In this blog post, we'll explore why inner-love precedes and is the foundation for loving relationships.

Nobody Give you Love

Nobody actually gives you love; rather, they trigger the love that's already inside you.

You released the chemicals and hormones including oxytocin and dopamine upon their loving words or touch.

A trigger!

This fundamental truth challenges the conventional notion that love is something external and thus to be obtained from others.

Rather, love is an inherent aspect of our being.

Whether we attribute it to God, the Universe, or a different concept of the Divine, this love is a constant, unwavering force that resides within us.

It can be covered up or dampened but it cannot be extinguished.

When we recognize that love originates from within, we liberate ourselves from the dependency on others for validation and fulfillment.

From Neediness to Confidence 

Finding love within moves us from a mindset of scarcity to one of abundance.

Instead of anxiously seeking love from others, we realize that we are already whole and complete.

This profound realization frees us from the cycle of dependency and insecurity, allowing us to enter into relationships from a place of strength and authenticity.

Moreover, when we are grounded in inner-love, our relationships become a reflection of our wholeness rather than a source of validation.

We no longer seek to fill voids or compensate for insecurities through our interactions with others. Instead, we approach relationships with a sense of generosity, compassion, and self-assurance.

We can confidently move from taking to giving.

Our relationships actually flourish!

Disappointment and anger with our partner diminishes!

By recognizing that love is not something we receive from others but something we embody, we unlock the truest essence of our being.

How to Unlock the Love Inside

Your subconscious mind cannot distinguish between what’s objectively real and fiction. To this part of your mind, everything is real.

Imagining being with a loved one from the past. A grandfather for example or even a beloved dog will trigger these feelings of love inside.

Focus upon these feelings of love and imagine expanding them growing larger and larger.

Imagine spreading the love throughout your body.

Connect with God to do the same thing.

With each iteration your ability to create the feelings of love inside will increase. The “love” vessel, like a gas tank in your car, will be full.

You will approach the world and your relationships from a position of confidence and the old neediness will dissipate as you feel stronger and more fulfilled.


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